The Pleasure Ethic is both the name of my sex and relationship coaching practice and its foundational philosophy. I chose it primarily because of what it implies – that pleasure is ethical. The principle of a pleasure ethic is that pleasure – that which lights us up, turns us on, is in integrity and alignment with who we are in any given moment and time of life – is...
In our first episode of The Pleasure Ethic podcast my co-host Javier Cortez and I introduce ourselves and tell the story of how we met. I really love the story. We met on the dating app Bumble. My interest was piqued by what he wrote on his profile, something along the lines of “I’m not here to hookup, I write about people I meet on dating apps.” I thought that was cool and...
Emotional literacy is the ability to recognize, name, and express emotion. Less about controlling, managing, or even regulating (concepts that lend themselves to viewing emotion through a lens of pathology) literacy is about awareness and skill. Skills that can, and should, be taught and modeled just like language is. And, like language literacy, we are made for it. Whether or not we are...